I guess i'm writing this out of a little bit of frustration here but I'm so puzzled by women that play "Hard to get" type of deal.

So here's the situation...I met this girl through this online dating site and yeah it's cool and we chat up a little via email...move to msn and continuing talking and eventually we exchange facebook stuff and talk a little more on msn before i ask for her # and we decided we'd go out sometime for some coffee (simple date right?).

So after I get her # I was like ok I'm free this week at said time and how's it for you...busy, try another day, busy, and another busy etc. So after a little while of "scheduling" lol we left it open ended and said ok next week for sure...but she knows i'm flying out the upcoming weekend for 3 1/2 weeks out of the country (vacation). So a day or two goes by and i msn her and try to iron out a date time but she told me she won't know the schedule till Saturday (which is fine with me).

So come today (Sunday)...i call this morning and she says she's busy and to call her later tonight. I was like ok sure no problem. So I call in the evening and no pick up, i didn't bother leaving her a msg but I emailed her saying it's like impossible to get in touch with you jokingly and told her to email me back as it seemed to work better that way at the beginning. So later that evenign I see her on msn and i msn'ed her "is it a good time to call you? lol" and she replied back saying that well nows not a good time and sets her display to "busy" with no explanation.

From my perspective here...this is ridiculous...like come on i'm totally being led around by the nose and quite frankly that's totally not right. It's not like I haven't attempted to get in touch with her, nor have i been pushy or rude in any sense on the phone or msn. It's like a lack of genuiness and quite frankly I'm not going to bother trying to get in touch with her anymore as it's over a week and 1/2 now since I got her digits, and literally i've been the only one calling (she msn'ed me a few times but come on...equality here, guys want to feel wanted too ya know, simple phone call is all it would take).

Now that I got her off my mind at the moment, I'm just going to concentrate on having a good time in a few days when my vacation takes me to Hawaii with the beautiful women there in hawaiian dresses

Anyhow, have any of you single people who date encountered people like this?

She was trying to be kind. She's not interested. You need to focus on learning how to read the signs. When she right away, consistently, was not available she was trying to be polite. She needs to learn to just say, "I'm not interested" and walk away and stop worrying about being kind.
Btw there is not one particular sex or another that plays more mind games. Just like there is not one particular sex that is not adept at understanding when people are trying to avoid them.

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If your date says anything else, try someone else.

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Yup.. thats right.

Reading what you said she did Lil is right (again) she aint interested. She just don't know how to say no politly.

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While we're generalising, why is it that men never consider that women may simply not be attracted to them, but rather think that they are so desirable that women will stoop to complex mind games in order to bag them?!

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Well now you're just talking silly! Of course that's not a consideration!

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*sighs* I had a "feeling" that she wasn't interested...but I'm a guy that's pretty driven so I'll continue to pursue it to a certain degree until I can CLEARLY say there's no chance hahah. Call it something like I don't like giving up that easily without absolute certainty ie. stubborn or iron willed lol. I'm a cyclist after all so I think it's the latter.

But what gets me is why on earth would she give me her REAL digits in the first place? That's what bugs me, usually a lady will give out her # to only those who she finds interesting (well at least that's how i assume it would be). It's not like I got a rejection number lol...

As a guy i've been asked out before and I don't mind giving out my #. If that's the case I'll usually pursue it with genuiness in mind, not this crap I had to put up with and wasting my time. I'll be sure to post up some photos of me living it up with the ladies in Hawaii on facebook for sure...so if she happens to come across my facebook page again well lookie lookie, what fun we "could've" had :P

What also gets me is why people can't just be straight and direct about it. Like a girl one time asked me if i was interested in her and I said that I'd just be interested in getting to know you. That's pretty direct and to the point, sure it lacks intimacy and style but hey there's no confusion or mystery bout it lol.

Hey there now! I've never said that a woman is using complex mind games to catch me off guard. No, I'm a mature man and I realize that it is entirely possible for a woman to not be interested in me. We call them lesbians.




Hear Hear! If I knew then what I knew now I would have used college to focus 100% on my career to maximize my profit and earnings potential, and then when I retire when I am 40 I will be surrounded by beautiful women and have a case of V1@gr@.

Make that retire at 35 if I go to medical school and come up with a surgery for a working penis augmentation. Well, not really retirement, but I would find my second calling in porn.

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Well sir that seems to be someone else's problem.