My girlfriend and I have talked about having anal sex and she seems a little reluctant to try it. Any good tips on how to go about talking to her and also if anyone has tips about anal. I know the lube thing but other than that I am clueless.

Ok, well where to start. Ok first of all you have to make her feel comfortable. When you do start to get down to business, I recomend that you go down on her. While doing this, have one finger inside as you lick her clit. Then take another finger and slip it in her and get it wet. Then gently place it over her anus and slowly insert it in. Go like this for at least 5 mins. Then slide another finger in. Just as a mental note, two finger's is roughly the same girth as a dick. So she at least can get some sort of feeling for it. Make sure to get some lube and add some to your finger's. Then work up a steady rythem and keep it going.

Now by this time she should be "adjusted" enough for the real thing. Now before you continue if you decide to wear a condom, remember that it will actaully make you dick slightly thicker. Always listen to her for any signs of uncertainty and reassure her that you will be as gentle as you can and you will stop if it hurts her too much.

Use a position that gives you full access, doggy is very good for anal. Even spooning is good as it takes away any pressure from her by not having all of your body weight behind each thrust.

Then add some lube onto mr "big" and gently go in. Take baby steps here. Very slowly add more as you go in. Remember to go come back out after a few seconds so her anal muscles can contract and open.

It's just like fucking a virgin for the first time. Just remember that she is an anal virgin so treat it the same way. As long as there is communication back and forth from each of you, you shouldn't have any problems.

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While Mark (^^^) may have the clinical techniques down to a science...anal intercourse is different from person to person and from time to time. What is good in one evening, may not happen the next. It's not always so cut and dried!

I can't tell how old you are from your profile...and so I can't assume an age for your g/f. If she is young and sexually inexperienced, I can totally undestand her reluctance to anal. A woman can barely know her own vaginal pleasures if sex is very new to her. Time and patience is the key to helping her decide if she wants to experience anal sex with you. This isn't something you can "talk her into". Take time to please one another in every aspect of lovemaking...touch, smell, see, talk, experiment...but never force the issue.

Don't stop trying...and when she wants/needs/has to have it...you'll know!

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*drooling* mmmm...anal :lust:
for me, actually, i don't usually like it doggie style. we may switch it up to that later but i'd rather take him at my own pace, straddle him on my knees so i can lower myself down, this way i can stop and wait for a sec if i need to.

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errr...as i meant to add to that^^^maybe if you told, and could show her, she'd have total control over pace and penetration she'd feel more at ease about givin it a shot.

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I was really reluctant to try anal sex at first too. I had a lot of mental hold ups about it. Mostly, I thought it would hurt and be dirty so I didn't want to do it because I was a "nice girl" and "nice girls" didn't do things like that (how in denial was I? LOL).

Do you think your girlfriend might feel the same way? You should talk to her and ask her why she isn't into it, ask her if she's afraid it'll hurt or whatever. Just be understanding to whatever she tells you, and if she decides to give it a go be sure to treat her gently.

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