I'm genuinely concerned for a friend of mine who has been drawn back to a guy who is (by her own admission) no good for her. And I mean seriously no good for her. This guy is thoroughly deserving of this thread's title, yet she's giving him another chance in order to not be alone and because he "has things [she] needs" (and he's not cashed up or providing housing, or affectionate, so I think it's obvious what she's talking about ) I know by previous conversations that some of our Pixie ladies here have found themselves in situations such as this and have pulled themselves out. My question is, what did it take? What should your friends have done to help?

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All friends can do is continue to support and love them, without enabling them. But constantly making them feel bad about their choice, or picking at the S/O, will only cause them to avoid you.

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I had a friend in high school who had a boyfriend like that. She would complain about him a lot so one day I simply said, "When was the last time you said something good about him?" That made her stop & think & she did dump him. She was likely at the end of her rope and I just nudged her in the right direction.

Some people just don't want to be alone & stick with the devil they know, sadly.

Our friends become our friends because we like them. Even though we may not agree with everything they do. Continue to be her friend and just be there when she needs you. Sometimes all we need is the support of a good friend.


And of course plenty of huggles.

saddly there is little you can do--I have a lady friend who is still "stuck" on a real piece of *&!@--fortunately she stays away from him but still has feelings for him. All she has to do is give me the word and he will suffer; still the word has not been given. Yet people are odd in the way of the heart. Why do some of still carry a touch for someone in our pass.

Your friend just hasn't found someone she can have "those" feelings for someone else. Perhaps talking this fella aside and tell him just how important your friend is to you and telling him you'd hate to see her hurt will be enough. But till she is over with him---well sigh! what else can you do other then be a friend to her.

Some women are attracted to men who are not their type, serially.

You can offer help, but not intervention. She must come to you (her friends)

and leave the ex in the past.

Otherwise, she is a grown woman and it's her life.

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