angelicvampires posted a thread that got lil thinking. so lil posted a thread and her thread, coupled with a few recent events and a few sex news articles, got me thinking. or thinking harder, anyway.
i have this anxiety about what the generation that my children belong to (they’re still little) will come to understand about sex and sexuality. frankly, it frightens me.
some of you shared advice you got from your moms and stuff but i wonder if i could turn the tables now. if you have kids or maybe you don’t but you can at least imagine having kids, what’s your advice for them here? specifically, i’m wondering how you try to counterbalance the steady stream of false and idiotic ideas and information about sex that mainstream media streams into our homes everyday (uh…that was alotta streams. huh. weird.)
onward…
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WARNING! after re-reading my post this is the gereral area that i noticed, and you’re all gonna be surprised here, i went off on a little tangent. fell free to skip to the end and post your thoughts)
for example!
~poor spongebob gets blitzed because he might have an eensey weeensey thing goin on with the starfish and had the temerity to suggest we all be more tolerant.
~little buster's trip to the house with two mommies got noticed, and then spectacularly flamed, by some pompous idjit in a $4,000 suit and that was after...
after... pbs had already decided not to air it.
~our teens think that getting/giving blowjob's and having anal sex does not make you sexually active. i mean hey…i'm still virgin, right?
~a recent story about kids and body image. a term which, by the way, they have now re-named globalized beauty… wtf? anyway, a girl, she was 11 i think, ate little balls of paper…PAPER!…all day long cause she figured it had no calories but it still made her belly feel full. oh—and she drank water ands ate exlax so she could, "ya know, poop...to stay healthy". smart girl. so why did she
do that?
~a woman’s breast popping out on tv can cause a totally overdone media frenzy perpetuated by a hypocritical anchor woman pulling a fatal attraction right there on my plasmascreen in her little swivel chair.
(*cough* foxnews *cough*
)
~the other football faux pas—the commercial with the woman from housewives. how irresponsible of them to show a naked body???…puh-leeze! even when get it right they get it all wrong. it wasn’t the naked body that was offensive, it was the message that if a woman can’t manipulate a guy into having sex she should at the very least pout and act petulant.
~laws that are still on the books, and yes some of them are still put into practice when it suits a “unique” situation. these laws make certain sexual acts, even when they are performed between two consensual adults in secluded private, illegal, immoral and grounds for arrest. some of them so vaguely worded they could be interpreted to mean masturbating in your shower stall.
~schools that are cornered into to accepting misleading and incomplete sex-ed books because the state that holds the publishing rights has the biggest lobby in congress. (not 100% positive on this one but it popped into my head…heard it somewhere….the state is texas maybe? details…details…)
and except for the vaguely worded laws i mentioned, these are all things that have come to my attention in the last 2 weeks alone!
oh! and on a personal levelthe totally rude, crude, detestable, distasteful, hateful, misinformed and generally bird-brained things i have seen with my own two eyes--which i believe, are a product of all the above and then some, crammed into a growing brain at speeds worthy of an 80’s rock video. it’s disgraceful. it makes me sad.
i could never exile myself from all forms of mainstream media, nor would i want to. so that option is moot. but they all contain some little thing that adds another skewed image to a stockpile of rejects building up in their young minds. and i can’t rationally ensure that my kids won’t ever pick up on these falsehoods even if i could manage to exterminate them from my home.
we see a lot of good stuff too. a lot. but everythign they see gets stored somewhere.
and what gets me is that it’s not like i’m bringign up some brilliant never-thought-of-before idea. marlene deitreck or however you spell her name said that in america, sex in an obsession, everywhere else, it’s a fact. and she’s been dead for like 50 years. this is not new.we talk about it all the time. for cryin’ out loud, the media even talks about how the media itself instigates and fuels these ridiculous notions. it's a twisted society we live in i think sometimes. and america can name herself the gooey cream of celery soup that bonds this society of sexual subterfuge casserole together…errrr…spoooooon!!!!
ok…hold it…the tick reference clued me in….this has turned into a rant…sorry. i’m leaving my thoughts, but i’ll go back and warn everyone where it goes wonky. my only excuse? bigbad’s out of town so I’m staying up wayyyyy too late
but my heart is pure and i want your input. anything you wanna say. anything at all. i need to help steer my own kids in the right direction. we have a lot of ways we deal with this already but i wanna soak up all your thoughts, too.
Go to bed, wyndhy..you'll feel better in the morning. 
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