Here's a fun question... why do men find it so easy to replace a woman? Twice this month I have been involved with amazing guys, then out of no where they tell me they have decided to be with someone else entirely. One decided on getting together with an ex and one decided he wanted to be with some chick from class.

I know there is nothing wrong with me. They just haven't taken the time to fully understand who I am. I repeat to myself all the good qualities that I know I have, but I can't help but feel hurt.

How can I truely trust a man anymore when he says he likes me? Everytime I have finally trusted it, and started to get feelings for him, something out of the blue happens, some other dream girl comes in and sweeps that guy away. I have had a man pursue me for three monthes, then when we started dating, suddenly he says he really wants to be with the secretary of his club, and started dating her right after we had become "official".

How in the world can someone get into a relationship? Then after that How in the world can you make it last and keep his attention? I can't even keep a guy's attention after a week.

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~Kaelynn~

Some days life can be shitty , some days life can be outstanding ;
Sometimes you find love , sometimes you find fun ;

Just remember through all these changes you are you, special and unique...

Just a reminder to those who are like me and need it...

Honey it's not you and it's not genderally exclusive either. I've had my last 4 attempts at a relationship go back to exes. Hell I started to put an ad out "If you want your damn ex back go out with me!" LOLFor whatever reason people are fickle. We've just had the unfortunate situation of being in the wrong place at the wrong times. From what I've seen and read of you here you're delightful and level headed. Patience Love and it'll come... I know I hate that line too but it's true. Hugz

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As to marriage or celibacy, let a man take which course he will. He will be sure to repent - Socrates

Love is not looking in each other's eyes, but looking together in the same direction - Antoine De Saint-Exupery

Sweetie, all I can do is give you a big "HUG" cause I suck at relationships...my last one ended when he told me what a wonderful person I was, how much fun we had together, how much we had in common but...............there was just "no spark"....damn, made me feel like a hell.

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I like the bed I'm sleeping in, just like me it's broken in; it's not old -- just older.
Like a favorite pair of torn blue jeans, this skin I'm in it's alright with me; it's not old -- just older.....Bon Jovi

Kaelynn,

Just getting on with someone isn't enough for a relationship, nor is great sex.

They are important components to a more complex thing, but they are not enough by themselves.

Perhaps you are trying so hard that you are scaring them off.

Don't worry about "official" and work on "functional".

Relax and take joy from the moment and let the heavy stuff sort itself out.

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I wouldn't worry too much . . . I dated a few guys when I was your age & the next women they dated, they married! I wasn't ready to be serious so it worked out but it was still a weird feeling for a while.

I think it's a good time to enjoy being single. Date more than one guy at a time . . . . no strings, no promises, see how that goes?

i don't believe in dating a bunch of men at once... i feel it doesn't give the guys involved a fair chance.... just my view

thanks for all the advice everyone...

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~Kaelynn~

Some days life can be shitty , some days life can be outstanding ;
Sometimes you find love , sometimes you find fun ;

Just remember through all these changes you are you, special and unique...

Just a reminder to those who are like me and need it...