my /g f found out about a gay experiance i had with a men while i was with her. We had a very good relationship, great sex, a child etc. Ever since she found out she has kicked me out, we no longer live together. It has been a week since she found out and is persistant in saying that there is not hope for us to be together ever again. She says that she is no longer sexually attracted to me and find me and the who idea repulsive and sick.

I understand where she is comming form , this was a 1 time thing it was amistake and i have no intrest in pursuing gay or Bi relationhsips.

I offered to do anything i can to make it work ... she still refuses. Offered to go to councelling , but she still refused.



Anything i can do???
I really want things to work out between us.

First of all, let me say that I'm sorry to hear that you and your girlfriend are at odds.

Do you think she took the news of this experience extra hard because it came on the heels of having taken and posted pictures?

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Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.

As I see it, you broke your relationship covenant if you promised to see her exclusively. Doesn't matter if it was with a man or a woman...it was a breach of faith.

She is within her rights to exclude you from her life from this point forward. You'll have to work to earn her trust back, assuming she is willing to let you try.

I think right now the only thing you can do is be patient with her and let her know that (1) you messed up, and (2) you're willing to work to earn back her trust.

Best of luck!

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It's a quirk of people that if you have an affair with someone the same sex as your partner, it's a betrayal, but if you have an affair with the opposite sex to the partner, it's saying that you were unhappy with them on a gender basis. This is a much bigger slap in the face and may be unrecoverable.

Good luck.

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I'd suggest you try to get into couple's therapy.

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hi


thanks for your great advice... glad everyone is honest i appreciate that.

I'm not sure how to approach this situation.

Its only been 1 week so i hope that because of our situation thing will work out.

I suggested couples therapy but that was turned down on her end.

I know i made a big mistake but after being together for 5 years i was expecting a bit more comsideration from her side.


Do you think that this will pass, once she gets over the initial phases of the situation?