
10-29-2005, 04:11 AM
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Mrs FussyPucker
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Join Date: Jan 2003
Location: England
Posts: 3,635
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agaethwe,
I'm sorry. I had no intention of making you feel guilty and/or selfish and it's certainly not about me trying to score points for perception.
Seems to me, you're pretty self aware, but were perhaps a bit shy to admit your own shortcomings here at Pixies (completely understandable) but in doing so you were giving the impression that it is all Alba that needs to do the changing. I was simply trying to point out that when there's incompatibility in a relationship, it's rarely all one person's fault. However, you seem to be largely aware of this, so I'll drop the subject.
Just remember, if my pointing out the areas that require improvement from you make you feel guilty and selfish, then you doing the same to her, is likely to make her feel the same way. A lot of people (women especially) have problems overcoming guilt for the sake of a healthy sex life, so it's important that neither of you feel guilty for being who you are. There's no point in apportioning blame to each other or to oneself, so just be aware of how you are and learn to expand those boundaries without feeling guilty that they exist.
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