Since this is the advise section I figured that this would be best for my problem.

My fiance and I like mutual masturbation, mainly because she doesn't want to get pregant and ruin her future. Lately we have "play played" no more than once or twice a month. The times we do, I am generaly the one to start the ball so to speak, and the times I start it she isn't in to it very much. Most of the time when you go a month at a time without and sexual contact, the time it happens is really intense. With me, my heart pumps like it is going to explode and I get the shakes. I have noticed lately that she pretty much does it and goes back to sleep without giving me any visual signs that she is enjoying it. The times she she gets the ball going, she is way more intense. I don't understand what the problem is.

I know that she enjoys it, she just doesn't look like it. I know this sounds complicated, but I hope someone can give me some advise on what is going on and some tips to make it more intense for the both of us.

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