Block him.......doesnt sound good to me!

I certainly can understand you feeling somewhat flattered by someone that enamored with you. However, it sounds dangerous to me. I would think a "sane" or rational person would have taken the hint 4 years ago that you were not interested in him. I'd be extremely cautious to say the least.

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I, too, am concerned. How did he get your e-mail address? If it was from a mutual friend, cool. If he tracked you down, I'd be creeped out.

Be careful with this one- I can see how it is flattering to know that someone kept you in the back of his mind for so long in the same way as it's flattering to be wolf-whistled walking down the street. It may be just as benign-- or it may be the start of another onslaught of stalking. I have to say, when someone swipes your ID to get your address and then starts showing up all the time it definitely sets of warning bells. Chances are if you thought it creepy enough to have to ask, then it is in your best interests to stay away from this guy.

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BCG~
If you have the right information about someone you can track them down very easily, even right to their phone number and home address. ( I know I recently dug up info on a guy who was contacting me via IM and wanted to know about him)

Just becareful and mainly the thing that really hurts in the end (assuming nothing in Real life gets out of hand) is becoming emotionally attached to their flattery, persistence, etc. When it ends (usually by somehting they do, like lying or whatever) the down feeling is a rough thing to deal with. So just be on your guard but dont rule out that 4 yrs *can* change a person.

Then again I am a softie and think the best of people and sometimes naive.

~babybunny~

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Have you ever told him to stop contacting you? I know it is hard to do sometimes because you don't want to hurt people's feelings, but some people don't get it unless you do that. Yes, he may be a perfectly well adjusted person after 4 years, but is it worth the risk given the history?

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Ok, first off, you guys are all so awesome and have given some great advice! You are all so very sweet to be so concerned for me as well. (((Hugs to you all!)))

As to the content of that e-mail, he basically just said "Hi beautiful!" and was wondering if I was about done with school yet. He then said he hoped to hear back from me soon and signed it with just his name...that's why I wasn't TOO concerned, no threats or anything...but I will definitely keep a lot of your suggestions in mind and will be ever so careful and mindful of the situation. I have yet to reply back to him and don't know if I will.

BCG

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Well, with that in mind it may just be someone trying to just get a reply from out of the blue, the way I've attempted at times to e-mail high school classmates from out of the blue, or a couple acquaintences in Germany (or how I've been thinking about contacting the girls who were stuck with me in eastern Germany for a month in July/August 1992 for a language course). I think it's just the known events of the pass that made YOU nervous, and set off all of our "spidy senses" as well.

Hey BCG,

All I can say is just be very carefull. You'll do what you think is right no matter what anyone says but listen to what these good folks are telling you. I see this in my profession quite abit and though some are harmless most are predators and stalkers and will hurt you if they do not get what they want. It might sound scary but thats reality.

Just be carefull

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Ya know, personally i think it's a crying shame to take a simple IM such as "Hey Beautiful, was wondering if ya was done with school yet, hope to hear back from ya soon".. and run with it so far as to make him a "physco,Stalker".. After all, it REALLY is hard to read a persons true feelings, without being able to read the body language their using also. Don't get me Wrong ~BCG~, if ya feel the least bit alarmed about the situation, by all means , please take some sort of action in the matter. Guess i'm just saying , until he crosses that fine line, that only YOU know he shouldn't cross, he deserves the same as the rest of us, which is the benefit of the doubt. Hell, i'm sure he'd prolly wonder about some of "US" if he perved Pixies..hehe

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69SuperSport

Sounds like a movie...a creepy movie!!

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I disagree with 69SS, only because I lived through a similar situation. A girl I went out with was 'tracked' down by an ex (this girl had even moved states - which is a lot of kms in Australia - yet this dude found her, got in contact and asked her to go out (while I was interstate). She hadn't seen or heard from this guy in years yet thought nothing of going out with him after all that time. I'm not the jealous type but something didn't sit too well about the situation and when she told me she planned on going out with him again I had to put my foot down. It was just too strange for my liking. I mean, the past is the past and this guy put way too much thought and energy into tracking his ex down.

I'll stick with creepy!!

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Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, Noise. But before quickly judging a situation, put yourself in the other sides shoes for a min, as if they were the shoes of someone wrongfully accused. Been there, done that, or should i say had it done to me.. lol

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69SuperSport

You know BCG I am so suspicious in general and am the last person to give anyone the benefit of the doubt. However that said, I think that some really super sweet guys are totally not use to meeting women the conventional ways. Direct face-to-face meetings and the overriding fears of rejection can sometimes cause normally rational minds to act irrationally causing him to view his own actions as flattery instead of intimidating and scary. Why don't you tell him that you how you feel? Tell him that the things he did to meet you, while taking a certain amount of creative thinking and effort on his behalf, make you feel uneasy. And that you were wondering why he didn't simply introduce himself face to face when he had the chance?
Of course if you know the guy better and you get a bad feeling from being around tell him that you have zero interest in him as politely as you can and that you don’t want him to continue to make unwelcome advances.

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Any updates? Did you write him back?