Hmmmm ... I have several siblings, but the age difference made it so it really wasn't a plausible thing to talk about when I was growing up ... now physical distance keeps us from having many chances to talk long enough to really get to that level of intimacy for talking .... unlike some though ... I think my brother and sisters are all very cool and can't imagine any of them not having wonderful full lifes with their partners. (Though I don't actually dwell on the thought!!!!) LOL

It hardly ever came up in my family. Even going back to high school. I had to read about all the good sex positions on my own - ah....usenet.

I was never able to talk with any family about sex at that age.

Certainly it is the time when the body is all fired up and hormones are racing. I hope you get to have that talk with him BCG because i am sure that you will be able to make a big contribution to his development.

Many boys would not be able to ask, you are being paid a tremendous compliment and shown great trust. I would think that you should give him a womens perspective about what is good in a relationship, about trust and caring and the little things that matter so much, about how a woman feels when she has a period and her emotional reaction to it. The mysteries of women some men never learn and you can help your brother and his future partners by giving him the insight.

Tell him about what is good for a woman sexually, especially about the clit, I didnt even know what one was for so long, sex ed never taught anything much about that except to say it was there. Teach him that sex is a wonderful, normal human activity that is a gift when indulged in by mutual desire and feelings for each other. That it is not right to force it but will happen when the conditions are right.

We never got down to really talking about sex. My brother was five years older than me and so as a kid, I was just his little bro. We talked on rare occasions about girls but not in much sexual detail.

More like his telling me of the cute gals he dated. That kind of thing.

BCG, in some ways I admire you ... that your brother has enough confidence and trust in you to come to you with a topic like that. Tells me just how special a sister you are.

Once you swallow that nervous lump in your throat.... (gulp).......

Make a day of it with him.. take him out to lunch.. go to the park and talk.. away from the house. Ask him what is on his mind.. and try to be truthful, understanding.

What an amazing thing it can be to take a young man and give him insites (like grumbleguts said) about women. Take the opportunity to dispell any wrong information that he may be thinking is right (usually from friends).....

Sounds like he isn't just your little brother anymore, but a friend as well... cherish it while you can.

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BCG Darlin, I think the fact he felt he could ask you says a lot. He looks up to you and wanted your input. While having the opportunity to turn him in the right direction and warn him of the many pitfalls ahead are very important. I think it also speaks volumes about how cool his big Sis is. A fact I had pretty much assumed from your pics and posts. You'll have that talk and do well with it.

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I'm the middle child of five......all two years apart except for me and next sis down (miscarriage between us left four years difference). Growing up, we never really talked about our sexuality to one another........but now that we are older we can talk about anything. It just never really came up back then.......even though we all knew when each one of us was deflowered.

I agree with you BCG, in that it would have taken me by surprise if my brother had asked me questions, but it would have been different if it were one of my sisters. I guess though, after my initial shock, I could have sat down and talked with him about sex. We've always talked about anything else.....so why not?

You'll be fine hun! You are intelligent and caring.....and that's all that's really needed. It will come to you.....what to say I mean. It seems odd now but like anything else we might dread.......when it's over we wonder what all the fuss was about. Best wishes! *hugs*

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