Hi Lixy I'm new here so I'll just get in line next

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As a long term member myself....heres my 5c worth

Any newbie that makes the decision to come out and join us, and posts badly so to speak, should be taken by the hand and lead in the right direction....not bashed over the head!

Patience is required with any learner...you can still point em in the right direction and state you displeasure...but at least be nice about it...they can then learn from your example of manners.

If they continually post badly and are not learning then a MOD will take there hand and be a bit more forceful in the learning process....if after that they continue their path of destruction then the MODS will take furth action

I know ya want to rally the wagons and defend ya home ground (been there a few times myself) but i've been thinking very hard and long for quite a while...if we want Pixies to survive we NEED new blood

I've noted first hand what some newbies have been through.....we are saying come out and play with us...but DONT FUCK IT UP...cause we'll eat ya for dinner...damn scary i can tell ya

If we want em to post then we gotta give em a chance to learn the ropes

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^^^^ Inflation.. 2 cents has gone up to 5 cents..

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. .....thinks I will sit this one out and just get drunk

/me pours BIBI a mudslide...

we still have pennies....I've been wondering how much longer though

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Sharni.. ^^^^^ LOL...there ya go! Another example... I have got to get out of my cave more often....

There is also another example of how what is posted could possibly be misread... had I not put the smiles in there and had Sharni been a sensitive person she could have taken what I posted to be sarcasm and a personal affront. But, because I did put the smiles in, and even if I didn't, because Sharni knows I was teasing her, all is well.

I still don't know all the ropes.. those damn knots confuse the hell out of me..

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I have been chewed up and spit out in the chat room and I still don't know what the fuck i am doing!!

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I normally wouldn't post on this type of thread, but , this time I will.
This is how I handle Pixies, I come here read the post I want to read, only if they interest me then maybe post( only after I have thought out how what I have to say could be taken if read differantly than intended, if I can't think of a way to write it to be safe so to speak, I just leave the thread and don't post), then go on to a post on one that I feel like posting on. I admit I mostly drool over the pics posted (damned irritating when sexy women post new pics and I can't get then to open, grrrrrrrrr) and I don't post on most of them caise I don't want to upset anyone, even though I thouroly(sp) would love to tell them how much I like there post. I call it my for sure way of getting along with most everyone here. When I was a newbie, there where a few times that I was jumped on, even by PM's raking me over the coals so to speak for what I posted, that is partly why I choose to perv here in the fashion that I do. I go by the theory that if you nothing nice to say then don't say anything at all, but that is just how I do it. I feel that if a Pixie member is upsetting the members, that it is the job of the mods to take care of it, not mine. Unless they really go over boardwith what they are posting, then I might post my opinion, and that is all it is, take it or leave it. I feel if you don't like a post don't go into it, no one is forcing you to read it. LOL, for someone that hardly ever posts, I got long winded here, and I hate to type. LOL

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Sharni? When we agree, we agree...but when we disagree I know I'd better duck when I have said my piece! LOL...*hugs*

I am about to duck...but not after I say this...

Mods aren't the know all and end all of this site! We are a community. and might I add, no mod was ever elected...but put into their position by the mods before them. I respect a mods position and appreciate all they do for us. I know it's a hard job...but [we] didn't ask you to take it. You took it for your own personal reasons. If I had my druthers...it'd be more diplomatic. But that's not saying that I wouldn't vote for everyone who is already in office...it's just to say that I don't like to be made to feel lesser the member because I am not a mod! We were ALL members first!

As I feel that most of your words are true and from the heart and I feel your caring...I get a feeling of double standard when it comes to who says what to who in some of these situations that bring up this very topic from time to time! What I mean is...it's ok for mods to say whatever they have to/want to say in a any thread. But mere members are expected to hold their tongue and only voice their disgruntled opinions to mods. This makes me feel like a "tattle tale, trouble maker, bitchy, whiney, OMG...here she comes again" kind of person...instead of the (sometimes) tactful, eloquent, articulate, diplomatic till you push my buttons to bursting kinda person I strive to achieve when I visit the site.

I get the feeling that I am being chastised if I've a notion to say something to a new member that I have no idea will spark an iron fist from a mod. It'd almost be easier to send a sample post in PM to a mod before making a statement in a thread.

I agree...sometimes [we] can get a bit overprotective and harsh. But, we are who we have always been till we feel a threat to the site...and if taking someone down a peg was a crime...you and I would be in "the dungeon" forever!

Final case in point...on behalf of mere members...

We know nice...and we know ignorant (and all that the meaning of the word entails)...and we tolerate one more than the other time after time! We don't purposely chase new members away! I feel backed into a corner here and I've a need to defend the majority.

If you sum up the posts of welcomes and helpfulness...against the posts of harsh reprimand and a "pack" attitude...you've got to admit...we ARE one great bunch of diverse people on any site EVER! So...not everyone loves every newbie to come and visit us! For the most part...the good outweighs the bad and we always open our arms to the good. To be told, time after time, of only our faults...as few as they are...instead of pointing out the all over good with the everyday participation...well...that bites! Plain and simple! That we keep getting told that it's great that we love this place, but don't dare stand up for it in the few times that we feel a need...well that bites too!

*jumps off the soapbox...ducks and runs so fast you can't even see my ass to spank it*

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I never said the Mods were....

Like it or not this IS a moderated site

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Nope dont agree there.....i get a rap over the knuckles the same as any other member believe me!

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The people who post unacceptable posts will be spoken to...dont care who you are

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Not me making any segregation between members and Mods....i've stated on many occassions i was a member first and alway will be

Again any time i've spoken badly i HAVE been taken to task for it!

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