GS... Hugs hun.. I wish I could say or do more that would help in easing your pain.. I know that what you are going thru is proving to be extremely difficult and heart breaking... I assure you.. that when all of this is behind you... you will stand under the blue sky with a deeper appreciation for those who truly love you. HUGS..

Her soul has touched yours Steve and that will live with you forever. And everyone who you touch in this world will be touched because of her. Live a good life for yourself and other and you will honor her.

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YVW Steve!

Smile at least once today! Keep talking with us.........and sooner than you realize.......this will all be behind you!

*hugs*

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This was a stressing week, and I had days I was really feeling sick for the divorce´s stress. Now I have probs with my lawyer, hope I can repair that.
Oh damn divorce! With all that I cannot recommend to anybody getting married. At least not here or in Spain. And I need to say if you have the slightest doubts your partner you want to get married with might not be ideal, better say no and enjoy being friends.

Jenna, Lilith and Lixy, you are very nice . And I´m happy being around again.

I need the prayers and good vibes of everybody. Wish me luck and power.

HUGS, Stefan

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Stefan,

Another day gone by. Another day closer to an end to all this hardship! Please remember this.......I promise.......it does get better!

I never lie!

Try and think this way........At some point in my day I will smile for some reason.......and I will feel good again, if but for only a moment..........and I will remember this feeling until I feel it again......later today.....or, if not, then tomorrow! But I WILL feel the good feeling again!

*double hugs for missing a few days here*

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Thank you Lixy
I need this way of thinking very much. The day I will see my wife again (and hopefully my daughter) after all that time is on February 3rd, and this imagination means a lot of mental stress for me. Big tension.

Today I had an experience that showed me what the difficulty is on dealing with my fears. That´s because it is more than fears. It is PANIC. And in this moment it is very difficult thinking clearly. But you have shown me the techniques, and I will try to give my very best.

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All we can do is try and do our best Stefan! No one, even yourself, can ask for any better than that!

If you find yourself starting to panic......sit back, relax, breathe deep and try and remember....this WILL NOT go on forever! Think of a moment that was good.......the one that made you smile in spite of yourself........and remember that there will be more and more times like this sooner than never.

When you do see your wife again in February......try and remember that this is the day that brings me closer to an end to all of this stress..........instead of thinking that this is the day that I am going to be so much more stressed. Think of that day as another cog in the wheel that is turning towards a better future for you......a future free of your wife and your stress and your panic.

If you can just think of it as another day closer to freedom......instead of thinking of the day of the meeting as a day you are going to dread....it will be more bearable for you. And if your daughter is there.....the less stress you feel, the less she will pick up on and the better the long awaited meeting will go.

I'll keep you close in my thoughts on February 3rd and please just try and remember.......there are always people here that care about you and want to help in anyway we can.

You are going to be ok Stefan........I know it seems hard to believe now.....but you ARE going to be ok! I don't think we ever face challenges that we aren't strong enough to handle. We just have to see them through even when we feel like giving up......and when all is said and done, we learn that we are stronger than we knew.....and the pride from that revelation is worth the struggle!

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~Thomas Dewar~

Thank you very much, Lixy.
Strange - now, because I did not get any news from my lawyer recently, and I have the ticket to go to Spain already, I start feeling rather ok. I cannot say I am well prepared for that case - but I will go and stand it.

It is good knowing that there are people thinking about you

Thank you all, keep your fingers crossed!

HUGS Stefan

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fingers crossed GS

TY BIBI

I have been talking to my bank about my financial future. It´s gonna be more than disastrous. Damn marriage! I wonder what for was all that effort. I am paying a very high price for that lesson.
I think I need a miracle! Does anybody have a miracle left for me?
OMG this can´t seriously be the true life....

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I not only crossed my fingers for you Stefan........I am tied inna bunch for you. LOL!

I think I said before....but I reiterate.....

Just when you think this is the darkest time of your life.........you will see the light at the end of the tunnel! Don't lose sight of the fact that the dark will try and overshadow the light........but I promise......however small it is.........the light will be there. And then as you come to the other end of this (tunnel) things will get better and better. I'm not trying to fool you.......this could take a while. But it WILL happen! Always remember........to every action......there is an equal and opposite reaction! It's only a matter of time! Hang in there sweety......TIME is your saving grace! One day closer.........

*hugs n hugs n hugs*

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not all marriages are bad experiences GS

TYVM Lixy!
The longer the time is that I know how the future will be, the easier it is to cope with it. Now I am rather fearless although the day is coming near... I am better now for these days. No idea how long this good mood will last, but I will take it as much time as I can.
I can see that I am not alone. This helps a lot! As local friends as you all Pixie friends

Angel_25:
Yes, you are right. But I really do not wish anybody to see the dark side of the medal. There is no guarantee for a marriage.

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G.S....I've not been married but my first ltr was a twisted one,to start i was 31 lol up until then i was a free agent so to speak.The person i met,my sons father,i met when i was at a vulnerable stage in my life ,my mom had died at 43 i was 27 we grew up together...along came this dude that told me what i needed to hear at the time,a sick relationship then ensued...until i had had enuff kkick his ass and i mean I KICKED IT Then my dad did..what i did after that was on me.

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CAPTIVATE MY ATTENTION, POSSESS MY BODY, INVADE MY MIND, ROCK MY WORLD AND, CALL ME "YOUR" BITCH... YOU KNOW MY HUNGER, YOU OWN MY DESIRE, YOU HAVE MY WILL, TAKE ME BABY... DIVINE PLEASURE

I got into some things not good..wait lol this is too much...bottom line is i never,ever thought i could trust or love any one ever again.I didn't think i deserved it...then i started changing on the inside,the outside followed..i met dzbuster thru a yahoo ad almost 2 yrs ago...never imagined that i could truly be happy..we have our ups n downs but its the best time i've had in my life..i panic all the time when is the shit gonna hit the fan,does he really care....i know he does we wouldn't be together this long

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CAPTIVATE MY ATTENTION, POSSESS MY BODY, INVADE MY MIND, ROCK MY WORLD AND, CALL ME "YOUR" BITCH... YOU KNOW MY HUNGER, YOU OWN MY DESIRE, YOU HAVE MY WILL, TAKE ME BABY... DIVINE PLEASURE