where did it go?

the thank yous, you’re welcomes and general acknowledgements of friendly gestures---seems they’ve been slowly disappearing and i wonder why.

does anyone else think that manners have gone by the wayside?

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It is one of the best things about living in the south...most of the time, people are still friendly and mannerly. It's a big hairy deal to me. My kids do such a good job of being polite and gracious. I talk to them about being chivalrous. If we as parents don't step up and try to make it important again then it will be lost.

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yep. just like we do our letters and numbers every day, we talk about manners and courtesy, too.

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Trees give peace to the souls of men * Nora Waln

The forest would be very quiet if no other birds sang than those who sing the best * Henry van Dyke

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Being courteous is a huge pet peeve of mine. When someone's behind you, you hold the door for them. And when someone does that for you, you thank them. I must hold the door 30 times a day and I can't tell you how many times people just walk right through without even a passing glance, like it's my job. Hell, even if it were my job...is there anthing wrong with a thank you?

I try so hard to instill that in my kids. It's tough raising them like that when so few others care enough to also.

I had always though the midwest was polite and courteous, until I moved to the South... I try to be polite, but sometimes my rushed ways get the best of me. It was pointed out by some Europeans that Americans have a terrible habit. Say for example, I hold the door open for someone and they respond with a "thanks", we tend to say "uh-huh", rather than "you're welcome". I cringe now everytime I find myself saying "uh-huh" when someone says "thanks" or "thank you". Of course the European interpretation of an American "uh-huh" was entertaining and made us all look like slobbish idiots. But hey, if it's their impression, I'll do what I can to fix it.

I agree with you, Lilith, about the South. That's another reason I love it so much here.

Men still hold the door for us most of the time here, at least that's my experience. People still say "please" and "thank you" and "you're welcome", and everyone is friendly. Women are respected.

I think it's still slowly changing here, too, however People aren't teaching their kids the same manners that we were taught.

Teenage boys seem to be the worst about it, maybe it's because they're clumsy and still learning the ropes, but in all my teenage years I've only dated one boy who opened the car doors for me, opened other doors, insisted that I take his jacket etc etc. If I have a son I hope I can teach him better, and hats off to you parents who are teaching your children better. More people should.

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It's a BOY!!

I hear you. Although I'm ashamed to admit that some of my manners have been slipping.
That being said, I've actually been yelled at for opening up a door. Back when I was in school, I opened the door for a young woman (my age) who proceeded to tear me a new one because "she was perfectly capable of open the door herself." I took the high road and didn't say anything, but all I wanted to say was that I could have closed the door on you, and what would you have thought of that? That and several words that I shouldn't be saying around impressionable youth.

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