09-21-2002, 09:13 PM
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Addicted to toys???
I was wondering if someone could give me some advice about a problem I am having? Initially, I noticed a change in my sexual respones, but denied I actually "had a problem." I have been using "toys" for quite a while. When my boyfriend started having to work longer hours due to his job being understaffed, I began to use them more and more. I was not always successful acheiving orgasm with my boyfriend, occassionally it was a "hit & miss" type situation. But I have ALWAYS acheived it with one toy or the other. I have started using them almost daily. Now I am having trouble either getting aroused or maintaining lubrication when I am with my boyfriend. I realize it is because he cannot move like my toys nor does he feel the same. What should I do? Although I know it is the toys, I cannot seem to "break the habit" of reaching for them....and he's beginning to wonder about what's going on....HELP!
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09-21-2002, 09:27 PM
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One suggestion would be to let him use the toys on you.
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09-21-2002, 09:37 PM
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09-21-2002, 09:45 PM
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I think that introducing him to their use is the ultimate solution.. the best of both worlds I think that toys should be a regular feature in a healthy sexual relationship.. not only for the female's pleasure.. but just as much for the males. Hopefully, by using them, he will realize that they aren't meant as a replacement.. just an extension (excuse the pun).
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09-21-2002, 09:48 PM
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I wish it were that easy....he is the competitive "manly man" type. He looks at toys as a replacement, and feels that if I am satisfied with him...why do I need them?
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09-21-2002, 09:53 PM
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he will continue to feel that way... UNTIL he is introduced to them.. then he may have a different view.
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09-21-2002, 10:02 PM
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had the "talk"
I have tried....he threw the first few toys away. We'd talked about it before, and he said no to the idea. So I figured after a "hot & heavy session of kissing, fondling, etc....maybe I could incorporate them into further foreplay. He was totally offended. He doesn't like to try new or different things. I love him and don't want to leave him (we've been together for several years) but I cannot continue to be sexually unsatisfied. He knows that I am not satisfied because I will not "pretend" or "fake it" for his ego. I try to tell him tactfully that we are just on two totally different sexual levels......my patience is wearing out...........
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09-21-2002, 10:12 PM
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Re: had the "talk"
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Originally posted by hotgirl4u2nite
we are just on two totally different sexual levels
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I think you identified the problem right there. Different sexual levels is something that is very difficult to change.. especially if one of the partners is unwilling to grow.
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09-22-2002, 07:48 AM
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So, does this mean we should give up EVEN THE ELECTRIC TOOTHBRUSH while in a relationship?!?!
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09-22-2002, 08:13 AM
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Quote:
So, does this mean we should give up EVEN THE ELECTRIC TOOTHBRUSH while in a relationship?!?!
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STEPH!!!!!!!!!!! OMG!!!!!!!! are you serious!!!!!!!!!!
hehehe......
But would he know..........I'm sure just like everyone else.....he would think it was just a plain old toothbrush......not a mega sex machine as we see our toothbrushes........LOL....
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09-22-2002, 08:34 AM
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OK when I posted, my understanding was that hotgirl4u2nite was referring to a problem caused by overstimulation by toys..... that is a physiological dilemma and my advice remains the same.
However, there seems to be alot more going on aside from the stimulation problem. If he is unwilling to listen and attempt to understand your needs, wants, and desires, do you think this will get better in a couple more years?????? Not likely........
And I certainly don't think anyone needs to give up anything when involved in a relationship...God forbid your OralB!......
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09-22-2002, 02:26 PM
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I completely agree with Lilith. Nothing to add.
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09-23-2002, 10:40 AM
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LOL Nikki and Lilith. I'm glad to hear we can keep . . . brushing! I'm about to join my b/f after a month apart and I think I'll stop with the toys for the next week to see what happens.
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09-27-2002, 10:41 AM
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I'm new to this forum, but after reading the posts I think toys can be fun if both partners use them together. Personally though I would be a little intimidated if she was using a dildo to satisfy herself inside of my cock inside of her. But I know I would adapt to the situation and hopefully I would have a lot of fun with it - sliding a nice dildo in and out of her...
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