I think anyone that said "approach your wife first" has got it dead on. This kind of decision really needs to be between the two of you before anyone else is involved.

Also remember, some women are scared of what you will think of them if they express a desire of some other dick (like this may be a trap) so prep this last conversation with many comments about how you are not insecure sexually and do not think she could ever love anyone but you.

Me and the missus treat a little group sex like an amusement park. Its fun for the evening but you can't live there.

Also, no matter how far it has gone that night, even if you literally have some neighbor box in your hand, if she is uncomfortable for even a moment...end it immediatly. The feelings a person gets from that do not go away easily.

If memory serves me correctly...Lil's pretty good at hiding knives too.

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.

I wasn't going to mention THAT.

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Calm, quiet, smooth, devastating

Wonderful advice to be found here... especially Wanda's.

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Put me on wheels and I'll turn tricks.

Clever? Nah, I ran out of that years ago. But if you find this, let me know, k?
"The road goes ever on..." ~ Tolkien

In memory of my friend skip...
Go then, there are other worlds than these

The First Cut Is The Deepest
Rod Stewart
(A Night On The Town)

I would have given you all of my heart
But there's someone who's torn it apart
And he's taken just all that I had
But if you want I'll try to love again
Baby I'll try to love again but I know

The first cut is the deepest
Baby I know the first cut is the deepest
But when it come to being lucky she's cursed
When it come to loving me she's worse
I still want you by my side
Just to help me dry the tears that I've cried
And I'm sure going to give you a try
And if you want I'll try to love again
Baby I'll try to love again but I know

The first cut is the deepest
Baby I know the first cut is the deepest
But when it come to being lucky she's cursed
When it come to loving me she's worse

I still want you by my side
Just to help me dry the tears that I've cried
But I'm sure gonna give you a try
'cause if you want I'll try to love again
Baby I'll try to love again but I know

The first cut is the deepest
Baby I know the first cut is the deepest
When it come to being lucky she's cursed
When it come to loving me she's worse

THIS SONG WAS WRITTEN BY CAT STEVENS...not ROD STEWART

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Just be yourself. The rest will fall in line.

I want to thank you all for your advice so far. Now to ask a little more... I have decided to not act on the "offer" at this time. However, I am debating whether or not I should even tell my wife about the possibility at all. As I said she is very reserved, most of the time, and I am concerned this revelation could hurt the friendship we have with this couple. Again, any advice would be helpful.

Robert

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OOOWWHHH!, I mean Baah, Baah

Not knowing your wife or friends, I can only respond with what I would do.

I'd tell Mrs. WI. I'm not quite sure how I'd phrase it, but it would probably come out a little like this:

"Hey, I heard from (so & so) today and talk about an unusual conversation...they've decided to act on a long running fantasy and experiment with swinging, and wanted to know what we thought of that."

Followed up with something like "Obviously, I told them that it's not something that we've discussed living out, and it's unlikely to ever happen...but that I'd definately run it past you".

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.

an interesting dilemma.

on one hand, i think being up-front about it...sorta in the way WI laid out ... is the best solution. it shows you respect her and value her opinion.

but, people can get to feeling really uptight about, and offended by other people's sexual practices and fantasies and the like. so much so that it could ruin a friendship. so i have to admit, if my spouse was like that and there wouldn't be any harm in NOT telling, i wouldn't.



for the record ... the previous question? … even though it seems you wouldn’t have done anything so foolish: don’t try to trick any body into any kind of first-time-sexual any thing at any time. . just my 2 billion dollars worth.

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The forest would be very quiet if no other birds sang than those who sing the best * Henry van Dyke

some fairly sordid tales, rambles, and anecdotes
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There is another option here. Just ask your wife what she thinks of it. Ask in a way that sounds like you overheard a conversation or you read something somewhere. She doesn't need to the minor details of where you heard/saw it.

Just say something like

You: Hey hun I heard the guys at work talking about something and I thought I would ask your opinion on it.
her: Yeah sure what is it?

You then tell her and see what she says.

This way you are using the 3rd person approach and it works well. Also this way you are getting feedback on something without causing any duress.

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My stories
An erotic story
The instructor and student
Secretary learns how to take a dicktation
The story of sister stephanie

And when she says "that's hot" thinking it's just fantasy talk, you can say "awesome...how about our friends who, coincidently enough, wanna bang us?".

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.

Ah, see now, this will blow your cover immediately, because when's the last time a man said "Hun, I want your opinion"???

Or is that just at my house?

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OTP, siempre

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"I walk with my head held high and naked in the sun, claiming these streets for myself."--Jonatha Brooke

AZRedHot - I think you're right about that - LMAO.

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"Time flies like an arrow -
Fruit flies like a banana"

M Y - N A U G H T Y - P I C T U R E S ! !

Once again I am taken out of context.

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My stories
An erotic story
The instructor and student
Secretary learns how to take a dicktation
The story of sister stephanie

One could rent a movie to sort of passive-aggressively segue into the topic...like if you were watching "The Ice Storm," you could say something like, "Boy, those key parties sure are crazy, eh?"

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"When men worship me because of my breasts, I feel that I am an embodiment of the goddess that has become...a part of our collective human soul." — Chloe Vevrier

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Just don't watch the end of that movie...it doesn't make ya horny at all!

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.