Aug 4, 2005 11:00 pm US/Eastern
PHILADELPHIA (KYW) Some people are coming out of the closet, but they're not gay. They are asexual and they say their lack of a sex life is as normal as having sex.

David Jay considers himself an average guy. “I go to my work everyday. I like to work out. I've got a whole slew of friends," he said.

Victoria Glancy considers herself average too. She likes to read, is writing a novel, and is excited about her new boyfriend. “We're incredibly mushy and obnoxious and we drive all our friends crazy," she said.

There is one difference. She and her boyfriend have no interest in having sex - ever!

Jay has no interest either: “Sex is never a thing that it made sense for me to do."

They are a couple of the growing number of people declaring themselves asexual. Jay even started a website - AVEN - Asexual Visibility and Education Network.

”People just started pouring in from all over the world with similar experiences saying, ya know? I'm not interested in sexuality. I don't experience sexual attraction,” he said.

Many people consider a lack of sex either funny or pitiful like in the upcoming movie "The 40-Year-Old Virgin." To asexuals, no sex is no joke and nothing to hide.

CBS 3’s Natasha Brown reports there are so many questions swirling around this issue. Is asexuality really an orientation? Is it an undiagnosed health problem or could it be spawned by an emotional problem?

Licensed Sex Therapist Dr. Chris Fariello explains: “They're people who perhaps they believe their hormone levels are off or they have low testosterone. In some cases, that's true.”

He says not all asexuals turn out to have a physical or emotional problem. “I certainly think that asexuality needs to be studied a little bit more so that we can learn to understand it and certainly accept it as a distinct form of sexual orientation,” he said.

Glancy says she doesn't need research to know she's fine. “I’m in a relationship. I met him on the site. He's asexual as well. there's just a level of intimacy there," she said.

It’s intimacy without sex.

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Wow. You know what guys, I truly don't think I can comprehend that.

it takes all kinds, and that is a fantastic thing.

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The forest would be very quiet if no other birds sang than those who sing the best * Henry van Dyke

some fairly sordid tales, rambles, and anecdotes
Hypothetically Speaking * Something More * Cammy Interrupted * An Experimental Vacation * Masked * so..damn..hot * Thank You * My toy, his idea * no.19 Maple Lane * I Have A Surprise For You * Yesterday * In a Quiet Kitchen * help me decide * untitled prose * more untitled prose

i think my husband is one of those asexuals... and just doesnt know it yet. LOL

Didn't someone make a movie about that?


Theoretically perfect...until Bab's got all :drool: and he was all like !

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We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.

*agrees* lol

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I suspect if it weren't for the frequent urges; erections; horny aspirations and lustful thoughts ... I could have been one, too.

^^^^^ what he said.

If they're happy without sex, more power to'em.
But it's not for me.

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"A man talking sense to himself is no madder than a man talking nonsense not to himself." - Guildenstern, “Rosencrantz and Guildenstern are Dead”

must be a real chore for them to make a baby if they decied to do so.

I learned about this in basic biology in high school. They are called amoebas.

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ROFL DB

I've had times in my life that I've done without sex but I knew it was just a temporary phase. I can't imagine going without my hedonistic ways!

Ewwww! I am kinda like that.......just not by choice.

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