well gang after many years of wanting nothing to do with anal sex I've finally decided to give in to my mans requests but before I do I need a little advice. I've gotten the basics like relax and lube, lots of lube! but my question to you guys is what should I do to prepare myself right before we do it, I guess what I'm trying to ask is how do I make sure its clean inside? is there a like test or something, what are some ways you guys prepare for anal sex? I feel like an idiot for asking but I have no idea what to do.



xoxo michelle

What changed your mind?

To me, attitude is the most important factor in whether or not the venture will be pleasurable.

But what do I know? lmao

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some people use a warm water enema if they think it is likely they may be playing that way.

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I've rarely worried about it and never had a problem.

And like WI said, attitude can make a big difference. If you want to enjoy it, you will.

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LOL...I just pictured you in doggie position with crib notes on your palms!

Sorry...it's early hun and seems my humor is still sleepy!

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Advice? If you aren't constipated (sorry again) at the time of the initiation there shouldn't be a problem. Of course your man knows that he should NEVER go from back to front (if ya know what I mean)! Front to back is fine, but once he's breached the anus he should not return to the vagina till he is bacteria free again. A mild enema can't hurt but really isn't necessary.

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A note about the enema. If you do use an enema wait a few hours after the enema to start play. The first is safety, your rectum has a mucus lining and the enema will wash it away. That lining is there to help prevent infection from any tiny cuts or tears that might occur in the rectum. if you wash that mucus away then partake in anal sex there will be tiny cuts and tears like there is for any and all sex and you won't be left with your protective layer. Secondly there isn't any way for you to know if you've expelled all the water from your rectum and you would probably be a little embarassed if some enema water leaked out during play.

If you just have a healthy BM before any play then a warm bath or shower you should be plenty clean enough.

I would suggest reading Tristan Taurmino's book "The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women".

I'm also curious what finally made you change your mind.

I have found in the past when I have done anal on those very few occasions that it gave e the urge to go to the toilt from that end.
So firstly I suggest go to the toilet, then have a shower to completely clean yourself out.
Like WildIrish say's it does have alot to do with attitude...hence try not to think about to much I know it will be hard but it does help.
Get you partner to start by lubing up one finger and inserting it into you and finger it in a circular direction, when that feels confortable continue with the next. Depending on the size of your partner will depend on how many fingers he will get up to.
Once he sees that all is fine he lubes up, for the 1st time I recommend that you do use a condom even though people think it makes the penis biiger yes to a point but at the same time it is lubed and very smooth so it make it alot easier for you partner to slide in....

Good Luck!!!

did you do it?
I'd love to hear about it.

So...

WHAT HAPPENED?

We want to know!!

WW

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Yeah! Give us the hole...errr...I mean, the WHOLE story, Michelle!

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