01-19-2002, 12:47 AM
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Pixies Devilish Soul
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BDSM 101 intro to dom/sub environments :)
hello people.
i could use a little advice. how do you turn a normally submissive lady into a dominant sex goddess? i would like her to be more agressive at times. also she likes a whole lot when i'm a take charge guy. my next problem is i'm running outta ideas. i need some bondage/discipline ideas because i'm fresh out.
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01-19-2002, 06:20 AM
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how do you turn a normally submissive lady into a dominant sex goddess?
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Give her a forum like Pixies place and call her DIVA!!!!
Sorry...this goddess thing is going to my head a little!!
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01-19-2002, 08:50 AM
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Dominance?
You can't make someone something they are not without
destroying much of what they are.
Help her to maximise her strengths so she can become her
incarnation of a sex goddess.
Lead her into being assertive and watch her bloom.
Pray it's in your direction.
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01-19-2002, 05:53 PM
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Pixies Devilish Soul
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edge
oldfart,
she is on the edge now. she wants to be more agressive it's just that she has been subjected to male dominance for quite some time and she has had the submissive role drilled into her head. what i want to do is coax her darker side to the surface.
souls cry
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01-20-2002, 10:49 AM
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Coax is good, lead is good, encourage is good.
Being self assertive is wonderful.
This is different to dominance and won't get you off the hook.
She needs you to be strong for her, maybe lovingly
dominant. Be yourself.
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01-28-2002, 11:53 AM
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Quote:
Originally posted by souls_cry2000
how do you turn a normally submissive lady into a dominant sex goddess?
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There is no way to "turn" anyone anything. We are born the way we are, and it is our journey we take in life that allows us to see who we are. Basically, what I am saying is... We are born submissive or Dominant. It is already inside us. Many people in the lifestyle expressed intrests in their childhood or young adulthood. They found a pattern, so to speak, and developed it. Just like everyone is born straight, gay, or bisexual. It is IN us and we can not "turn" anything else.
~Linds
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01-29-2002, 12:23 AM
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Actress
I dunno, some of us can play a part very well ifwe are so inclined.... give me time, hon and I'll see what I can cum up with.
Always
Kyttn
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01-29-2002, 12:26 AM
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Hello, Souls...
Although it is true that "we are what we are", so to speak, it is also true you can help develop a person's strength by focusing on that part of their personality, or sexual appetite that they excel in. If she seems to always be "driving" the contact or control in certain positions, or situations, try to focus on specifically on what she is doing that makes her more comfortable in that position or situation... explore that area a little bit more, and it will allow her to grow as slowly or as quickly as she wishes. Here's hoping it works for you, too!
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01-29-2002, 12:35 AM
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In MHO...
Bottom line, if her craving is submission, you will never "turn" her Domme.
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01-30-2002, 01:18 PM
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Seems to be a little confusion about the merits of "being"
versus "playing".
Whether Kyttn is developing or developing an act is for you
to evaluate and react to.
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01-30-2002, 11:10 PM
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Re: edge
Quote:
Originally posted by souls_cry2000
oldfart,
she is on the edge now. she wants to be more agressive it's just that she has been subjected to male dominance for quite some time and she has had the submissive role drilled into her head. what i want to do is coax her darker side to the surface.
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Figure however long she has been drilled into the sub role, it will take as long to unlearn that behaviour, if she really wants to; best that you can do is help her rebuild her self-esteem, if there is a budding dominatrix buried inside, then she can let it out; if not, I'm sure you'll still love the true woman that emerges!
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01-31-2002, 02:07 PM
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Well, I say love her, nuture her, always give that positive reinforcement of how sexy she is, (which she is by the way), and never try to force her to do anything that is not comfortable to her. My opinion and one of the policies that I live by.
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01-31-2002, 02:40 PM
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While I don't think that you can change anyone from the way that
they are.You can change their perceptions and habits.
Example:I drank alcohol for over 32yrs.I haven't touched alcohol
in approx. 9yrs.7 1/2mo. I wanted to stop.
I smoked cigarettes for over 12yrs.2pks. of Camels a day.I haven't touched cigarettes in over 30yrs.(pot only)I quit because
I realised it was a habit.
It can be done but your g/f has to desire to have it done. Irish
P.S.As usual;that's just my $.02.
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