this is a difficult question. i also feel everyone i've been with has been great in one way or another and has taught me something. but, for the actual answer to the question, it would be my best friend at the moment. we connect on so many levels, and sex is just one of them. also he is willing to do most of the kinky things i enjoy. i've realized a lot of people get freaked out when i mention my fetishes, he,on the other hand, enjoys them as much as i do.