01-06-2005, 07:51 AM
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Join Date: Apr 2001
Location: Queensland, Australia
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Originally Posted by Roostah
it would be fair to use this third person as some kind of sex toy for just one of you....
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But thats what they are...well for me
I'm in a long term relationship...i dont want to really want them permanantly involved in that....i'd want them there for sex and thats it
The important thing for me is that everyone knows their part BEFORE the 3sum gets going
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01-06-2005, 07:53 AM
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Originally Posted by cherrypie7788
I wasn't trying to step on your toes, Sharni That's just my opinion.
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But you did...no biggie
You assumed and stated that you thought his wife to be selfish
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01-06-2005, 08:58 AM
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Join Date: Oct 2001
Location: the beautiful North East
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Sharni
But thats what they are...well for me
I'm in a long term relationship...i dont want to really want them permanantly involved in that....i'd want them there for sex and thats it
The important thing for me is that everyone knows their part BEFORE the 3sum gets going
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that's a very good point that I never thought about...
so then is it better to have the third person be a friend or some random person? (taking copious notes :-P)
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01-06-2005, 10:27 AM
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ive had a few 3 somes and moresomes, i never had rules, but i also wasnt in love wanyone involed just dating / screwing them . id LUV to have one w hubby but i wuddnt want to be the only one recieving, i wud LUV to see him down on or in another girl. actually id luv to go down on the girl while he was in her !!!! now that wud be fun , i think u only need rules if theres a specific sexual thing u dont want don to urself , i sont think its fair to say well let a girl in but she can only do me and not u.
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01-06-2005, 10:34 AM
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~a little bit naughty~
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Join Date: Jun 2004
Location: Georgia
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Oh a topic I know something about.
Like everyone says it takes lots of trust and talking. Every couple is different and they better know what they are wanting before they go bringing in another person to their "bedroom."
With the couple we play with the woman doesn't want her man playing with me. We knew their rules before hand and totally respected them. I have no jealousy watching my man do anything with her but that is me.
We are currently looking to do some MFM fun. We talk alot about what we will and won't do. Like Stud doesn't want to see me kissing a man and I respect his wishes and won't do that.
To us we see adding another person or couple into our sex life as a way to enhance what we already have with each other. Much like sex toys or watching porn. Granted we are talking about real people and we would never just use someone without taking into account what they are wanting and making sure we are all compatiable and comfortable with each other.
Again make sure you both really want this. Years ago I tried to do this just to please my hubby and that backfired on us both. If you both don't really want it its best to just keep it in fantasy.
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01-06-2005, 10:57 AM
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Join Date: Nov 2003
Location: NE Missouri
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Silent, I was where you are now, about 6 months ago. Since then, we decided to just "go for it" during a drunken night of debauchery with my gf's friend. Before that, I had posted threads similar to this one. But it was fun, and as someone else said, the other person that you're adding wont (or shouldn't) come between the 2 of you if you're in a sound relationship. I know for us, it was a lot of fun, we can say we did it, and we do plan on doing it again, although with a random girl, not her friend. (We just put up an add at a local dildo barn for swingers) They can be fun, but I say be secure and confident of your relationship before doing it.
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01-06-2005, 11:41 AM
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pixie of the wood
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as long as i was cool with it in the first place, felt sure that i would not loose any love or respect for him and vice-versa, there would'nt be rules. i have a feeling that if we ever did try a threesome it would be pretty tame the first time around anyway; the more we did it the bolder we would get. the progression of its' beginning as an experiment to becomiing a more frequent...er... part of our sex life (and as i typed that wording i realized i think that's the key here. that's a threeesome is part of your sex life not your home life) anyway, it would give us the chance to get a feel for our likes/hates along the way.
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01-06-2005, 03:21 PM
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Well the situation with my wife is a little different than what would normally be called a 3sum. Like I said, I have absolutely no interest in being with someone else, neither does she. I wouldn't mind being with someone enough to experience a big breasted woman. One of her previous lovers happened to be "damn near as thick as a soda can" (in her words) which she has admitted to liking. The thing that we BOTH want though is for her to be with a woman. I would be there just for comfort, support, and a second set of tongue and fingers for her enjoyment.
My opinion personally, a threesome is a death sentence for a relationship if entered into without total and complete trust. I'll be the first to admit that my wife and I aren't ready for a threesome.
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01-06-2005, 04:49 PM
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is not this trim anymore!
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Join Date: Apr 2003
Location: New England
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Gekko
(We just put up an add at a local dildo barn for swingers)
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Dildo barn?
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01-08-2005, 02:18 AM
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Bring it.
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Join Date: Dec 2004
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The thing that we BOTH want though is for her to be with a woman. I would be there just for comfort, support, and a second set of tongue and fingers for her enjoyment.
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What was the problem again?
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03-29-2005, 09:10 AM
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Join Date: May 2001
Location: SouthEast Michigan
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My wife swapped partners 5 years ago for a week. You need to set boundaries and have full trust in your S/O.
Some rules we had were.
1. HAD TO USE A CONDOM and the men were not allow to cum being inside the wife incase the condom broke anyway.
2. No anal. That is something that we only want to keep for each other.
Other than that....anything was open if both parties agreed. It is something that we have discussed again and I am hoping that it would be something we could share together this time. We will see.
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