That is so true BlueSwede.....the foreplay doesn't always mean a few kisses and caresses in bed before the fireworks.

I know that I am much more receptive to new things sexually when I have been "romanced" (for lack of a better word - and that doesn't mean receiving flowers and such) outside of the bedroom. Feeling loved, not being tired from all of the kids and chores and sharing the worry of running a home - that is what makes me more receptive to activity in bed (or in any other room for that matter).

A few kisses on the back of my neck, gentle caresses (NOT just on the X zones) across my back, hips, shoulders, will make me anticipate a possible wonderful night ahead.

Communication is also a key. Talk about it, but not in a negative way. Not like - I am so bored with our sex life. That may lead to feelings of inadequacy in the relationship. Go to the bookstore together... there are wonderful books on how to make sex more exciting - pick one out together.. make it fun.....

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