You know, I tend to be pretty damn picky when it comes to men. I have a tendency to be friends with men I would date....maybe not marry, but date....and if they don't meet that criteria then they are not in my inner circle of friends. Sounds kinda mean, but I find that the first criteria for dating is that the person be my friend, so the converse is also true.

Lou ~ my guess is that you maybe hadn't made the right list. There are some shallow things that are just "window dressing" (like having a driver's license), but the really important things DO matter. My guess is that Fussy met all the "non-negotiables."

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Jenn,

It would be nice if you could add some weightings to each of the criteria, both for your study and us. Also, your list leans towards female wishes...perhaps that's why I don't see 'Thunder Thighs' !!



(Just thought of a great idea for a new thread...)


Jaybee.

Thanks for the great responses...

Lou.. making a "wish list" about yourself... characteristics that I need to further develop within myself is a fantastic idea... and I will begin working on such a list.. I think it will work well within this weeks assignment actually.. so I thank you..

BIBI... ROFL.. believe me.. employed is a "non-negotiable". I have never found myself remotely attracted to anyone who is unable (unwilling) to work. I grew up in a home where a work ethic was pounded in early.

osuche.. I read your post.. and could completely relate.. I have several very close male friends.. that I would certainly date.. but alas.. I am the only single one in my crowd..

Lilith.. that is almost exactly what I was told.. as to why the assignment was given to me... did you copy that out of a text book? LOL.. I am NOT a text book case... LOLOLOL.. far from it.

Catch22.. this is part of an ongoing project... ME... I have begun trying to deal with my issues with a professional.. in an attempt to rid myself of excess (unattractive) baggage.. this is just the beginning.. of a long road.

Jaybee.. Thunder thighs.. don't my kind of thing.. LOL.. but I am thankful they are yours

Hugs.. and sooo much thanks..

When I was young I made a list -- it would have been impossible for anyone to meet all the criteria, because somethings absolutely cancelled each other out (that was when I was very young!)

When I was in my late 20's I made another list, not really written down, but still it was a list I made and have carried it in my head ever since .... but having never written it down, I found it very difficult to sit down and do so .... strange how our minds work isn't it ....

Strong - emotionally, spiritually, mentally, personally ... and physically wouldn't be bad either.

Caring - about me, about my inner circle, about things that really matter (in my opinion)

Integrity (I think this really goes with the Strong, but it's very important to me)

That certain spark that kind of just sets my teeth (and various other parts) (and his as well) all atingle.

Beyond that, for me, just about everything else is negotiable.