Here's her dilemma, student loans are catching up with her, she just recently got outsourced on her evening job and rent is coming up so she needs to find something quick to get income again. She currently lives with me, my friends and my g/f so I told her that I think I can cover her rent for this month and maybe next, at the very least someone else can cover for her but for day-to-day living expenses i can't cover at all.

So naturally she thought about becoming a stripper as she hears stories online and things like it's easy money and you can make 300 a night or something or rather.

My concern is obviously the health issue, your in a strip club with lots of smoke, alcohol etc...next thing is that i keep hearing stories about stalkers stalking dancers at night...last thing i want is some big guy comin to my door and bustin it down and etc.

so what's a friend to do?

what was her degree in for the loans?

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I'd say that what often sounds like easy money ends up being the hardest money you'll ever earn!

And $300 a night might be possible ... even more, if she's working at the right location, if she's got the outfits for it (not cheap) ... etc. ..... Where's Lixy when we need her ... she would know many of the pros and cons re this choice since she used to do costumes for exotic dancers.

Like anything else you do in this life, you just have to remember that you have to live with that decision for the rest of your life ... (not live it necessarily ... but live with it). Hope she finds a job that she enjoys and meets her various needs financially (stripping or otherwise)!

At one point I wanted to print in BIG PERMANENT LETTERS on my brother's hand the following words: THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS EASY MONEY!

Stuffing envelopes is not easy, selling things door to door is not easy, what I do for a living is not easy, what you do for a living is not easy. Exotic dancing is not easy money. It may be fast money, or good money....but I think both of those things are less true than internet urban legend would have them be. If was something she'd thought long and hard about, investigated, talked to people who had been on the inside and left for some reason, looking into specific clubs where she might work....and STILL wanted to do it, I'd say get out of her way. But if she's diving into this in desperation and on the recommendation of "everybody says"....then I'd worry she's in for a few unpleasant surprises. Mind you, I'd say the same about ANY important job choice...it's a close match to what I tell people when they're looking at colleges/grad schools. It's a big deal, know what you're getting into.

In her case, if she's just panicing for cash...I might find her a few phone numbers for temp agencies. It might make some of the quick money options other than dancing easier to think about.

G (on going back...I ought to point out my brother wasn't necessarily thinking of dancing....more the "make money selling from home" sort of thing)

As a male of the species who has been suspected of frequenting those type of establishments (I plead the fifth!), allow me a few words. Being in construction and due to weather, I have had the opportunity over the years of being in strip clubs at different times, day, dinner, night, etc. The more senior the dancer is in the club, the better shifts (read night) she gets. The newbies get the day shifts and I have spoke to some who are lucky to make $25 for a 6 - 7 hour shift. Keep in mind that the club also charges the dancer for music, food, drinks, etc, so it is possible for a dancer to work a day for free. I am not trying to scare, just a nodding aquaintance with reality from one who has (supposedly) been in such establishments. Hope my $ .02 helps.

Youre a great friend. She is lucky to have you.

I dont know a thing about stripping. So I cant say good or bad.

But, what I can offer is that she can defer her student loans. The reason is not cked. My husband has had to defer his while he was being treated for his cancer. It will go for a yr even if you dont need it to. She just needs to tell them she is having hardships due to hours being cut- or loss of job or illness- whatever. It should be effective as soon as she submits the request and it is approved. Just tell her to call and get all the details.



Good Luck
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Barb

I haven't read all the replies either, but would like to contribute. 300 a night is a very attempting thing. But rather than the health issues think about what she would think for herself. If it is ok with her, she could try for it but of course some pimps would come over too.

If she is willing to do this, make sure it is a reputable bar with no pimps. The smoke and alchohol is a part of that job

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Sidebar:

We can't get away from second hand smoke...but the alcohol is our own doing! If we choose to drink...we drink. If we choose not to smoke but it's a smoking establishment...and we chose to work there...we take the secondhand smoke.

It's ALL about choices...and we ALL make our own choices in situations like this! You can't blame the establishment for what you choose to do! Not all dancing clubs allow smoking or serve alcohol. Some ban smoking except in designated areas...and some allow the customers to bring alcohol, but don't serve it themselves (they are usually the totally nude places).

Tell her to do her homework!

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